have had as a recurring theme in my musings a feeling of what are the stages
of SELF ACCEPTANCE for those of us that are CD. Christians often have the
added burden that we feel that Cross dressing is a sin based on two verses
mistranslated in most versions of the Bible. Deut 22:5 and 1Cor 6:9. I have
dealt with this with two CDís recently one that contacted me as a result of
my listing in the Tri-ess directory and my reference to this subject, and the
other Kathy, (dialog below) who is a new comer to the TG-Christian list.
have also played around with this in a lighthearted manner at one of the
am beginning to see a pattern here.
a young CD there is a sexual component to dressing (it is a big turn on)
mature CD when we have fully accepted ourselves in all aspects (for those of
us that are Christian coming to terms with that). There is no longer a sexual
content and a more mature outlook hopefully a desire to
help others In similar circumstances.
is a middle stage where most/some of us are partially dressing and are just a
guy in a dress. It is when we go the rest of the way wig, makeup, etc. when
that final transformation seems to take place!
is when we see ourselves not just as a guy in a dress, but as our female self
an outward and inward expression of that second nature. It is that lens,
dressing fully, that may focus the second self.
Too many questions.
have so many questions and they are not the sort of
me, I will eventually get up to speed. I must sound
every five minutes, "When are we going to get
would be concerned if you were NOT asking questions. You
want to know! Integration of both aspects of you,
is a goal that is good to aim for. Many CD's never
achieve this. For me one of the biggest barriers
self acceptance was a very strong relief that it was inherently
sinful. So I fought it for most of my life.
You have been there-done that. It is nice to hear that
my experience is not that unique. I was beginning
This he never did, and only after about oh 30-40 years,
told me why. God's timing? I suppose so.
efforts in finding out what the Bible really says, I
came to realize that being T* is not inherently sinful
we do with it can be).
am really glad you said that, I whole heartedly agree with
you. Being "dressed to kill" does not really give
"license to kill."
opened the door and one morning a couple of weeks after
I told my wife about Sandra I had a catharsis
The pain and hurt and frustration left me in a
flood of tears. Since that time I have been both
experienced the same thing. But I didn't cry, I laughed
and shouted for joy! (same thing) Two become one
I married, and I felt as if two became one when I CDed.
Wasn't that the best experience? Skin care aside,
that is why people say I look ten years younger--I feel
ten years younger.
fantasy life vanished. Where dressing was very much a sexual
experience (you know what I mean) it is no longer.
confused my therapist she thought I might be TS, I am
definitely not. I have found a number of others that
had similar experiences. It sounds like you are already
most if not all the way there.
experienced the same thing. Partial "cross dressing" usually
ended with a sexual experience. This only
the feelings of sin. The two together felt wrong.
When God said "OK" and I finally found the right
and look, and Kathy was born, I felt as if I had come
home. It was not sexual but very fulfilling in a
honest way. Having sex with Kathy would be like kissing
my sister. (not that I know what that's about)
wonder if I should say that to my therapist?
take it easy I know it is hard to go slow but you are in
what we call gender euphoria and have been cooped up
long you want to roar.
What does she win? Good thing my wife is using my car
this weekend, I could end up in Vegas.
is one of the reasons I strongly recommend Tri-ess, it
will give you support and there is nothing like being
a room with other CD's and realizing I am not alone!
chance of being recognized).