She is Due Cor 7:3
spouse may be your greatest blessing, and your greatest threat. A person is
vulnerable to their beloved when they are vulnerable to no one else; because
you have let them into your heart.
we tend to hide our second self often into our forties.
wife always knew that there was a part of me that I kept hidden/separate
now knows that second self I am more vulnerable than I have ever been in my
As T*'s what are our responsibilities to our spouse? We made a covenant
relationship when we married them. For the most part they did not know about
our T* nature.
COVENANT (Heb. berit, "cutting"). The term applied to various
transactions between God and man, and man and his fellowman. In Obadiah (v. 7)
it is rendered "allied." In the NT the word diatheke, "disposition'
or "will" respecting a person or thing, is used; sometimes it is
translated "Testament", at other times "covenant."
of the Term. Properly used oral compact between man and man; either between
tribes or nations <1 Sam. 11:1; Josh. 9:6,15~, or between individuals
<Gen. 21:27~, in which each party bound himself to fulfill certain
conditions and was promised certain advantages. In making covenants God was
solemnly invoked as a witness <31:53~, whence the expression "a
covenant of the Lord" <l Sam. 20:8;
Jer. 34:18-19; Ezek 17:19~, and an oath was sworn <Gen. 2 l:31>.
Accordingly, a breach of covenant was regarded as a heinous sin <Ezek
17:12-20>. The marriage contract is called "the covenant of...
God" <Prov. 2: 17>. As a witness to the covenant a gift was
presented <Gen. 21:30> or a heap of stones set up <31:52>.
It is also
improperly used of a covenant between God and man. As man is not in the
position of an independent covenanting party, such a covenant is not strictly
a mutual compact but a promise on the part of God to arrange His providences
for the welfare of those who should render Him obedience.
note notice that Man can not have a covenant with God, but he can have one
(huz'-band) ('ish; aner): In the Hebrew household the husband and father
was the chief personage of an institution which was regarded as more than a
social organism, inasmuch as the family in primitive Semitic society had a distinctively
religious character and significance
husband from the first had supreme authority over his wife, or wives, and
children. In his own domain his rule was well-nigh absolute. The husband
trained his household in the way they should go religiously, as well as
instructed them in the traditions of the family, the tribe, and the nation.
Husbands, love your wives, even as Christ also loved the church, and gave
himself for it;
[Husbands, love your
wives.] The obligations are not merely one-sided The husband's
responsibility is just as binding as that of the wife. This is not a reference
to normal marital love, which would not need to be commanded, but to that
volitional love which stems from God and resembles his own love. In contrast
to normal sexual desire, which by its nature is self-seeking, this love is
unselfish. As also Christ loved the church. While human husbands can never
attain the degree of love Christ manifested, yet they are exhorted to have the
same kind of love, which is demonstrated in the clause that follows, and gave
himself for it.
submit yourselves unto your own husbands, as it is fit in the Lord.
submission is to be reciprocated in the husbands' love. As <Eph 5:28>
makes explicit, love here denotes not mere affection but an outgoing concern
for the wife's whole person.
7 Likewise, ye husbands, dwell with them
according to knowledge, giving honour unto the wife, as unto the weaker
vessel, and as being heirs together of the grace of life; that your prayers be
not hindered. (KJV)
The marriage relationship must be viewed in relationship to scriptural
is the giving of honor as a deliberate and conscious act to one who is your
equal before God. The giving of honor goes beyond the mere temporal and
implies the active encouragement and growth of the whole person that is your
partner in life.
Greek word [time] (honor) is related to precious
value, i.e. money paid, or (concretely and collectively) valuables; by
analogy, esteem (especially of the highest degree), or the dignity itself:
honor, precious, price, some.
1. We have
the right to know about our spouse’s T* nature, preferably before marriage,
but certainly when it becomes a significant factor in their lives.
2. We have
the right to honest and open communication with our spouse, with negotiation
and compromise on both sides, particularly in regard to allocation of family
resources and in matters pertaining to telling our children. Old patterns of
selfishness and deception must cease.
We have the right not to be pushed to "accept' things before
we have had time to learn enough about them and to begin to get used to
5. We have
the right to our spouses bodies. Neither partner in a marriage has the right
to alter body features without the full knowledge and consent of the other.
Now for the matters you wrote about: It is good for a man not to marry.
But since there is so much immorality, each man should have his own
wife, and each woman her own husband.
The husband should fulfill his marital duty to his wife, and
likewise the wife to
The wife's body does not belong to her alone but also to her husband.
In the same way, the husband's body does not belong to him alone but also to
his wife. 5 Do not
deprive each other except by mutual consent and for a time, so that you may
devote yourselves to prayer. Then come together again so that Satan will not
tempt you because of your lack of self-control (NIV)